Thursday, September 24, 2015

What do you get when you assume?

I love how people assume shit about me. I post things on social media that I’m passionate about. I have a heart for; animals, people, the environment, the poor, the unjust, LGBT issues, sexual assault awareness, women’s health rights, suicide awareness, animal rights, human rights, civil rights, religious freedom, freedom of speech, gun rights,  the list goes on. Most of these issues I have had personal experiences with. Which ones does not matter.

What matters is I like to post things that will get people talking and ask questions. I want people to be knowledgeable as to what is going on around you. You would be surprised to know how many people didn’t realize that the down feathers in your pillow are pulled from live geese. The farm keeps them alive to grow more feathers just to pull them out. (Just one example of what has been posted)

What I don’t appreciate is you to assume I have no experience in these issues or have never “seen” a particular situation happen so therefore how do I know it’s true. I take a lot of action that you don’t know about. I am involved in these communities. I have read their stories. I have given my support.
Recently I have had a couple of experiences of someone assuming something about me.

First example:

I posted a petition about the dog meat festival in China. I understand in some cultures they eat what we keep as pets. I also understand we eat cows and in other cultures they are sacred. But my point on sharing that petition was the fact that animals were being treated inhumanely when they are killed for food. The dogs are tortured in various ways before they are killed to make the meat taste better. Tortured. Period. That was my point.

Someone said to me after sharing that petition that basically how I have any right to say something when I buy products here from farms that do the same thing. Yes it happens here in the States also. I am not ignorant to that fact and I have shared petitions about that also. I try to make sure that what I buy are from cruelty free farms, and range free chicken eggs, etc. I am not perfect and don’t claim to be but I try to educate myself on where this is happening and to not buy from those companies. I do not buy from companies that test on animals either. We got into a pretty heated discussion about her assuming what my buying and eating habits were. Apparently I hit a nerve when I shared that post. And from what I gathered from that conversation is she is vegan so therefore I was just wrong for eating meat.

 I like meat. I have nothing against slaughter for food, but when the workers are deliberately torturing animals for their own pleasure just because they are going to slaughter anyway is inhumane. It’s wrong.

Second example:

I shared a meme about that lady who would not give out marriage licenses to gay couples wanting to get married the meme was a picture of her crying and she said, “what hurts most is when people say God doesn’t love her”, bottom of meme says, You know what Christians tell gay kids every single day.

I thought the meme was ironic.

Someone said to me “I have never heard a real Christian tell anyone that God doesn't love them and I sincerely doubt you have either.”

Different person, “I consider myself a Christian and I have never read or heard that before. Some Christians don't believe it's right but I have never heard Jesus does not love you because you are gay”
We can go on for hours, days, weeks, months and years on Religion. In fact countries are still at war because of it.  For the first person comment, a true Christian would never say that because they know that God does love them. Just like he loves the killer, the rapist, the thief, the adulterer, the child molester, the liar, the abortionist, idolist, etc.

As far as the comment of “I sincerely doubt you have either.” You’re right I’ve never heard a “true” Christian say that. I have heard many “proclaimed Christians” say that. I’ve seen signs that say God Hates Gays, and so forth. I have heard with my own two ears that homosexuals are going to hell, I’ve heard that people that have abortions are going to hell, and I’ve heard that only God can sanctify a marriage. (The 600 laws in Leviticus, was to set apart the Israelites, the Jews, from the Canaanites, considered pagan.) Marriage has been around long before the laws were given to the Israelites.

I have also heard a “Christian” use racial and derogatory words. I’m not calling out particular names because I’m not one to throw the first stone. I cuss like a sailor and I know my faults.
 I have also seen with my own two eyes a Christian father kick out his own son because of a disagreement. The main argument between them was the father didn’t not approve of how the child dressed because the father was more worried about how others thought of the family. The father was afraid of how it made the family look. Paleeze! Jesus never cared how anyone looked when he helped them. He said the greatest commandment is love. If you love your neighbor then why deny them the same rights you have. We are not to judge each other.

As for the second person if you’ve never heard of these things before then you must be in a great church. Or you are really sheltered as to how the world is. I hope it’s the first. I could go on for ages about the bible and the church. But I won’t. There are too many things to argue and discuss.

If you want to make a statement assuming something about me, don’t. Ask me. I will be glad to talk to you and get some info for you. I normally don’t reply to people who make comments assuming stuff about me or accusing stuff on me because it’s not worth my time. I’m not perfect and never claim to be. I’m pretty much an open book and I will say what’s on my mind. I do not care if we disagree. But don’t attack me without knowing my involvement in these situations. I have been through so many experiences in my short life probably more than most will experience in a lifetime. Do don’t assume anything about anyone. You never know who is privately struggling with an issue.

Whew, and not one cuss word. Crap there is one. Well there ya go. I’m leaving it for you to find.


Monday, September 21, 2015

Till It Happens To You

There are no words really to describe the emotion that I felt while watching this video. A lot of emotions came rushing back to me watching this. I am never able to really watch shows, movies or read about rape. I get such an anger that I just can't even explain. However made myself watch this video. And I have not been able to forget it. Woman have struggled with this issue since the beginning of time. 

We have taught our girls to watch themselves, watch their surroundings when walking to the car, when they are little be mindful of how they sit , don't dress a certain way, don't get too drunk, don't wear skirts, don't wear low-cut blouses, don't have long hair, don't wear long hair in a ponytail, don't dress slutty, don't look like you're asking for it, etc... the list goes on. I have heard all of these do not's.........but what I haven't heard is education to boys and men about how it's wrong to rape. 

Nobody asks to be raped. Nobody. 

I hope that this video sheds some light on the horrific situations that are happening at all campuses. Colleges need to do more to protect their students. Stop hiding the statics and making these women feel like it's their fault. 
Stop blaming the victim.

Thank you Lady Gaga for giving us a voice for those who don't have one.

And yes I do know men are raped too. Let's not forget the true issue. Rape.
 No means no, passed out means no.

The Hunting Ground is a documentary about sexual assault on college campuses.
Breaking The Silence
Pivot TV

Monday, September 14, 2015

Neil's close call, Nine Lives?

Oh boy where to start. My lower heating element went out in the oven a few days ago. I have been procrastinating on ordering one because I'm between paychecks and was going to order one next week. Well in the mean time this past Saturday a friend and I went out of town for a football game. While we were gone my husband Neil was at home watching the game with his cousin. For some reason only God knows, Neil decided to take the old element out of the oven. I don't even have the new one yet!

His cousin said "I noticed Neil was gone for awhile and was wondering what he was doing, I seen a large white flash across the walls and a loud POP!, Next thing I know Neil came around the corner looking white as a ghost."

Apparently Neil pulled the element out without unplugging it or turning off the power. Thanks goodness the pliers had rubber handles and had electrical tape on them. He definitely used up one of his nine lives.

Lesson: Always unplug everything before you work on it.
Stove-1 Neil-0
Element rush ordered on Amazon.

Wednesday, September 9, 2015


Well there's nothing like getting your ass handed to you. Had class last night and a test. Went in with the full confidence I'm gonna ace this test. 2 hours later, left like a whipped puppy. Missed 17 items. I'm like what the fuck. I did terrible on the vocab but did great on the financial statements and journal entries. UGH I feel like I should rethink this whole Accounting degree thing. #FF fucking frustrated.

Sunday, September 6, 2015

Late night run

So I had to drive a couple of drinkers on a late night run to Taco Bell tonight. So while I'm driving down the road all I hear from the backseat is...

"Wow that's pretty cool that tells you the actually speed your going"

Me: "um...... yea Josh that's called the speed odometer, I think you have one in your car too"

Now he's getting shit from everyone about how a speedometer works.

I guess he was fascinated by the digital speedometer instead of the needle speedometer. Still funny as hell. It doesn't take much to amuse me.

Tuesday, September 1, 2015


So this is how Zoidberg answers the door. she like to scare the shit out of you when you walk in. She has learned , just as the dog has, when she hears someone pull up in the driveway to run to the door. 
People - 0    :      Cat - everytime

Monday, August 31, 2015


Shit I forgot to post this the other day. Guess what I came home to? Zoidberg decided to have a freaking confetti party without me. Never a dull moment.

Sunday, August 30, 2015

Spotted Walls

So last night I decided to color my hair. I've had red streaks in it and between that coming out and my grays coming in, I have multicolored hair right now. My hair is so long that its hard to get a grip on putting this color in. I ended up with spots on my arm, hands, shirt, the sink, bottom of my foot (weird) and now I noticed some spots on the fricking bathroom walls. I tried to clean it off with water and it made it worse. Now I need to sneak in the can of paint past Neil to cover up the damn hair color on the walls. LMAO. I hope it covers easy. Otherwise I will have to deny. What a mess.

Saturday, August 29, 2015


OK so did I mention I am taking classes? And did I mention that I get neck aches and migraines because of my jacked up neck? Of course I have a couple of assignments due today and I wake up with a bad neck ache and a hint of a headache that could possible turn into a migraine. I hope I don't botch this assignment while I'm on Imitrex, looks like I might need to take one. #headachessuck

Friday, August 28, 2015

Compromising Position?

So I get a text from my son saying" I walked into the living room and seen this" with a picture attached.

There are no words. 

Monday, June 8, 2015

Story of my ....headaches?

Ugh so I've been not blogging for awhile. I've been fighting headaches, neck-aches, shoulder pains and all sorts of aches. So I found out that I have a couple of herniated disks in my neck. Yeah. Fun. Lots of Dr visits, physical therapy, and pain shots in my neck and a few months later. I'm a little better. The headaches are not as frequent, but still occur. No surgery any time soon as long as we can manage the pain. Doc says I'm too young to have this kind of surgery. Surgery will be last resort. So hopefully I can manage the pain as long as I can.

So yea, all my physical activities have halted. No more Roller Derby, no more rough housing. The main thing I asked my husband was "Omg what about Roller coasters?" I still haven't got an answer on that one. I will be mad as hell if the Doc says no. At least I was able to check the Mechanical Bull off my bucket list last year.  I finally went to my first comedy show last month to see Bill Burr,
freakin hilarious. I have more adventures lined up and things I'm waiting to get going. This scare has really opened my eyes about life and living each day to the fullest. People always think, "oh I'm still young, I have time to do that, or let me wait until I have more money". I say fuck that. I'm doing it now. You never know when something can happen to you and life is short. I'm going to be 38 this year, what time is a good time? The Present. I'll have more stories of shows and adventures to come.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Grinds My Gears

I am getting so aggravated with my State and some of the peoples comments I hear and see about homosexuality. There is now another halt on same sex marriages. This ass backwards state is fighting to the death.
Then there's this guy saying guys go into prison and come out gay, so being gay is a choice? WTF?

Don't hide behind the bible or God just because you don't like it, agree with it or don't understand it. Man up and hold your opinions as your own. This is a free country after all. whats wrong with people loving someone of the same sex? 
I feel like people take in each word of the bible to literal. The bible are stories of the history of mankind and the history of that time. The stories do give a view of the culture and the struggles of what man has been through. but to give every word of the bible as being a direct word from God is incorrect. Man wrote these stories and I'm sure a lot of things in there were written for their benefit. What do you think has been happening for all of mans time with religion and politics. It's all about power and money. If you want to be close to God, be fair and compassionate to people. That's what is lacking in this world is compassion. I wrote this insert a few days ago on Facebook. Its funny when I feel I've written some truth on my status, my post goes dead silent. Feels like everyone is scared to comment. LOL

Jesus' teachings are the most compassionate and loving out of all the stories you will ever read in the bible. I do believe he knew the struggle was real. 
The law was a way for people to gain acceptance from God, when that was broken they sacrificed goats and sheep. That was still inadequate for the people....God sent his ultimate sacrifice Jesus. Jesus took the commandments to a higher level; the commandment thou shalt not kill....Jesus said if you even have hate in your heart for your brother, then you already murdered in your heart. He went above and beyond what was required of himself. We were shown time and time again that people will never be able to fully follow the requirements of the Law. Yet people use this same Law to hide behind their insecurities, hate, unacceptance and intolerance in the name of God.
NLV Matthew 22:37
"Love your God with all your heart, mind and soul and love your neighbors as yourself, that is the greatest commandment. The entire law and all the demands are based on these two commandments."

Friday, February 20, 2015


It has been too cold. Stupid groundhog.  My skin is so dry form the cold air. I feel like I am about to scratch my skin off.  OMG I need relief! Please dear baby Jesus, send some warm winds our way and push this cold spell back to Canada. Between the dry skin and this damn static I am going crazy. I have a constant electrical charge going on..... Km piping and zapping everything and everybody. Normally I find this amusing but with these extreme temperatures the zaps are fierce and painful.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Fat Tuesday

As some of you know today is fat Tuesday, referring to the practice of the last night of eating richer, fatty foods before the ritual fasting of the Lenten season, which begins on Ash Wednesday. Lent last for 40 days. The time from Ash Wednesday to the time Christ died on the cross.
He did not come to condemn us.  He did not come to show us our sins, that is what the Law is for. He did not come to instill hate for the leper, the beggar, the drunk, the homosexual, the prostitute, the tax collector, the thief, the murder, the rapist, the lame, the orphans, the widows. These are the very same people he stayed with and ministered to, he loved them he accepted them, he cared for them.
We are supposed to love each other as he has loved us. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. He came to forgive, to give hope, to give acceptance to ALL people whether we like it or not. We as Christians are supposed to show God's love to all. 
As we come upon the season of Lent I hope everyone will take the time to meditate on God's love for you and reflect on your own life on how you can show Gods love for others through you.

Friday, February 13, 2015


Ugh, I feel like I've lost all motivation for life. I don't know whats wrong with me lately, I just feel so freakin lazy. I feel like such a lardass. Ever since I quit smoking I have gained massive weight. So I joined the gym. Now I feel like I'm slacking on that. Well, to me its massive. I don't want to study for my class, heck I can barley make myself read the chapter. I have not skated since July of 2014. I never went with out skating for this long. My legs have probably lost all muscle mass from not skating. ugh. I think I've lost my MOJO. I don't' want to do anything but stay home and watch Netflix.
Maybe because I have been so busy these last few years its my minds way of saying, "Ok bitch its time to slow your roll".

This is how I have been feeling

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Marriage Equality

This week has been history in the making. On February 9, 2015, Alabama was the 37th state to allow same sex marriages. I never thought in a million years thought I would see the day this would happen here. I am excited for my friends and for the people that have been denied legal rights for their loved ones. Nothing makes me happier than seeing two people in love. I hate that there are still people who want to strike down someone else just because they are different or have different beliefs. I am really ashamed of these Christians using hate and even tearing down the LBGT community to prove their point. I know its not all Christians doing this but its the majority. When you tear someone down and spread hate, you are not helping your cause. I was baptized Dec 21, 2008. I believe it was the best decision I have ever done. I have read the whole bible and I have attended church for many years. I believe in God and believe he loves everyone. That is why he sent his son for us.  I am also a supporter of the LBGT community. I do not see anything wrong with same sex marriage. I believe everyone should have the same human and civil rights as anyone else. I believe that is our God given right.
 I don't want this post to end up being a debate about the church and how what they believe is right or wrong because I have my opinions about that too. Maybe I'll save that for a later post. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. That is the greatest thing about this country. There are so many other places where being "gay" is deemed a sickness, and where it is even illegal. I could go on all day about who went wrong where. Until people stop being afraid of something that they do not understand then this world will continue to be in turmoil. As long as you have consenting adults who love each other then whats the harm? People forget that not long ago interracial marriages were also banned in this country. Do we really want to go back in time? Or move forward to equality and acceptance for all?

FYI, I was ordained on 2/5/2015, in support of equality marriages. So yes I can marry people. #makingadifference #lovecantwait

Sunday, February 8, 2015


Wrote this a while ago...

As a parent I love my children unconditionally. I might not like some of the things they do or want to do. I love my kids just the way they are, I accept them for that and encourage them to be themselves and to never lose that. Be the silly person that they are and express themselves in their crazy clothes and hair. They are only kids once and they need to enjoy that before they have to grow up and take on adult responsibilities. I have taught my kids that they should like people for who they are and not what they look like. I have taught them that they should not care about the materialistic things in life, it doesn't last. I encourage them to love God with all their heart, mind and soul. And if you put God first in life he will give you the desires of your heart. He will convict you of the wrong in your life and that is the only person you should be worried about pleasing. With that said it hurts my heart to know that parents will disown their own child because of their actions of how they want to live their life. Some kids pierce their face, get tattoos, color their hair crazy colors, are homosexuals, or have relationships with different races. You are supposed to love your kids unconditionally. But people get caught up with “What is everyone else going to think if my kid shows up like that?” WHO CARES? I taught my kids to not be followers of anyone but to make their own decisions and to also think about their decisions.  The only person they are on stage for is God and at the end of the day they have the free will to live their life. Don’t sit there and think “oh my goodness how is this going to make me look?” They are not here to MAKE you look good. I guarantee the same people judging you and your kids are the very same ones with bigger skeletons in their closet. These kids have the courage to be themselves and to put that out there and that is courageous. Some adults are too afraid to even do that. So I hope you “Adults” out there will grow up some day and love your kids because they are your kids, not because of how they make you look.

Saturday, February 7, 2015

Nerd Power

I never got into the board games like D&D or the card games like...mmmm......I don't even know whats it's called. Sorry, that's how much I don't care for them I guess.
I remember my dad would take me to the movies and read books. We seen King Kong, Dracula shows, the swamp thing, and the Hulk shows. I guess that’s where I get my love of these kinds of shows. My first movie was Star Trek, the Wrath of Khan.  OMG the ear wick is the main thing I remember from that movie! Freaked me out. But for some reason I couldn't get enough of Star Trek. I got into the original series and the New Generation but I just couldn't get into the other stuff like Battlestar Galactica, and whatever else spin off of whatever was our there. Star Wars....that's a different story. Love all of them.  I'm not sure hoe I feel about Disney doing more movies, the jury is still out on that one. I know there's  this rule you are for one or the other but I just can't pick one. I like them both. Sorry. I like to think my dad contributed those types of movies and my love for books. At least he did that right.
It figures I would turn into a nerd. At least that’s what my sister in law calls me. I don’t mind though. I know I’m a nerd.

PS. Found this cool ass Chewbacca jacket that I'm dying for.

mmmm now that I look at my previous pics that I post on Facebook, they are all of Star Wars. Cause I don't think I would be caught dead in a Star Trek outfit, LOL but I am gonna rock this Chewie jacket!

Getting Started

I'm not really sure of where to start with this blog but I do have a lot in my mind that I would like to say and of course I do have an opinion about everything. I just felt so moved lately about living in the moment, being yourself and doing what makes you happy. Live life to the fullest. Don't hold back just because your scared. Life is too short. Step out of your comfort zone. I have been through so much in my short life and maybe my story can help someone else or show how everyone struggles with something. I've decided to do more than what I've been doing. Trying something new continually. That's why I decided to start this blog. I had reserves about doing so, because I hate writing and always felt insecure about doing so. 

I am going to write about my life growing up and I will also post about present day. I will write about subjects that some people might get pissed about, but this is what I went through. Different things that happened to me or friends that made me the person I am today. I  will not name names. I will respect every one's privacy about that. But if you know me well, then you might can guess the names of some, but still, I felt like I had to put that in here. I will not tell other peoples stories, that's for them to tell. I will tell my side of it and how it has effected me. 

 Hopefully I won't jump around too much and confuse anyone. Yeah my grammar might be a little off or I use slang a lot. I am trying to stay me when I write. So I'm sorry if your an English major and you're cringing right now. The world still turns. :)

My memory is not all that great to remember every detail for a book, but maybe if I start writing it will come out eventually. Maybe just getting lost in the moment writing about it will trigger some memories and details. Then I can piece them together in the right order. So here goes.